2016-12-29 09:44 pm (UTC)
Here is some water, some light, some bread, and some warmth
It is the same, what can you do?
You can do plenty.
You can chose to ignore the other one's folie, and to let time, and wisdom come at their own pace into them.
You cannot accelerate that, and you can never give wisdom to another human. She has to reach for it on her own.
You have to understand with your heart and soul to become wise, and she understand it with her mind and not even there she wants to admit mistakes.
Its like that.
In middle age they burned witches for famine, pest, and usual misfortune. Today its you.
Dont let someone mistake consume you in pain, you are not the mistake nor the cause of it.
It can be very sad to watch a friend not understand reason, even more when its someone dear, but you can only accept that the person dont want to see.
Sometimes its you who act like that too, and someone else will think you are crazy, and have lost all reason, and heart.
She will one day come to see it the right way, and anyway it will still be the same, as it will not repair the damage her folly has created nor the wounds it has inflicted on others.
It is therefore best to leave it alone.
Let her deal with her karma, who was ver since long, but that she don't want to let go, and after having done your best, let it go, as to keep coming back at it is the person's choice and life.
You cant interfere with it
Its part of her learning pattern, part of her destiny, part of her cycle of learning, and growing.
When she will be tired to run in circle and go nowhere, and tired of the self inflicted torment, she will stop.
Eventually the light will hit the fan, and she will see clearly her mistake, and will fall again in an even deeper misery at first, remembering how confused she had been and how much she tormented others.
Or maybe she will just ignore it, as she does now, to dont have to face the whole picture of her reality.
To face herself, and what she really did.
You cannot walk the path of life for another human,
and peoples ignominies are their own.
Not yours to carry.
even if they try hard to make you do so, using guilt and lies, to keep a wound open and reopen new wounds.
It is unfair, so totally unfair and unjustified, and wrong, and hurtful, and even choking, but its not the truth, not even hers, its just a story, who do not include you, nor depict you, as it was never real.
Of course it doesn't change the fact that someone made that story.. and served it to you as if it was the truth..
Overcome this, take it as a passage ritual, not something you are asked to carry.
Drop it on your way out
It was never meant for you to carry.
Wisdom never healed a wounded heart, but i hope it will help your eyes to see from a lighter and brighter perspective, and help you to can move ahead.
This kind of vitriol, even coming from a close friend will hurt anyone, deeply.
But dont stay too long in the bath of suffering, get out of that purgatory, and back to life.
You have been forced to drink at this venom for too long now. Its time for you to get some clear water, and better nourishment for your soul.
I tell you that with all the gratitude, that you did not receive where it should have come from,
and in all respect for what you have achieved who was once acknowledged, and then taken back and refuted, and not even taken in consideration to lighten the judgement, but diminished to nothing to justify her wrongs, quickly forgetting that once your help was needed, and was received open handedly...
and then closed..
Be proud of what you did, regret nothing, walk proudly
here, no mistake and no wrong was done by you
It is usual for human to make mistakes, that you repaired a thousand times.
Ignore the condemnations.
You have since long paid your tributes,
and she is not god nor has any heavenly power
only the rage and hate the lost ones have, when they do not want to take the way they know they must take and prefer stay offended, by creating imaginary offense, to can complain.
Remove yourself from it, as it has nothing to do with you in reality.
It is part of that person's learning road, you are just instrumental to her denial to do what she has to do.
Remove you, and she will have no other choice but to confront reality, to learn, and to come out of this world of lies she constructed.
Edited at 2016-12-29 10:04 pm (UTC)
2016-12-29 09:45 pm (UTC)
Here is some water, some light, some bread, and some warmth 2
Everybody learn and change in life, and sometimes we change from what we were, and our friends and lover does too, sometimes together and we grow together, but sometimes in different direction, and in such a way, that we take a different pattern and a different road, so far away from each others, that we can never reconcile, nor work together, nor agree, nor live together, nor be friends again.
It is the lot of humans being.
The ones that once made you grow, now hinder you from doing so, and you have little in common but memories, that too are changed in the mind of each others.
It is the price of self development.
You do not have to stay where the other stay, nor follow anyone but your own path.
Stay true to your path, stay true to you, to your core,
and everything else will become harmonious and easier.
Everything else in your life will realign itself with what you want and need, and you will become happy.
It is the dissension, and to many of them, in your life and around you, between what you are, need and want, and what others want from you, can give, and have become, who is the cause of the disharmony inside you, who make disharmonic waves around you too. And influence your life everywhere.
All is connected.
Like an orchestra where all instruments play for themselves in total cacophony.
You have to readjust your relationships, and rearrange them, as you know to do, not by making artificial superficial change who never work, but by taking the necessary steps toward a more definitive solution, so that everything is in balance again.
and then you can stand inside yourself, reston you, and rest on yourself like a tree.
Full of confidence and able to trust you and your intuition.
You made a mistake on the person
She was not an angel, never, and she didn't have the heavenly quality you and others, later on gave her.
Angels dont spit venom.
and dont bite to hurt long.
Some humans do that, and some do it often.
You ask "what happened to you?"
it happened that her mask fall
it happened that life came in the way of illusion.
it happened that you saw the face you didn't knew existed, and therefor couldn't recognise, and was long to admit was the same person.
Remember the good
Learn from the bad and hurtful
and move on.
The road is open in front of you,
the stakes of your future already set in place,
everything awaits you.
Take charge of your future
and the future will take very good care of you.
You need a hug, and good company.
Tomorrow begin today.